The only problem I have with that is that then I think her H will just come up with some other nitpicky thing, if not the house, then homework, or something else that is not really what is bothering him. You know I've changed everything about myself as my H always said he wanted, work at least a dozen hours on the house now every week, etc. and he still finds stuff to complain about. I think the problem is not in me or what I'm doing or not doing, but in H's head. Karen
I didn't mean to imply that if SW took care of these certain tasks, then her H wouldn't find fault anywhere else and she'd be in the clear. These are just some things she can try to tackle. It becomes less fuel for him.
And you're right. Her H, like yours and like mine, would still probably get angry and annoyed by other things, ANYthing. Doesn't matter what because it seems like most WASs tend to do nothing but focus on the 'bad' that happened in the M/R. They REFUSE to see any good that existed, or exists, for too long, again making themselves feel better about their choices of walking out on their families and/or having an A. They're very selfish, remember? Until they come out of their fog (if they ever do), they only care about their own feelings and nobody else's.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
