W then said she was happy to prepare the lunches for me and was glad that I was enjoying them, then she added "At least I can make you happy with food if not in other parts of our lives".
Hummmm..........this tells me that she has a real desire to make you happy! She is trying hard in this area of making your lunches b/c she feel more confident doing this job. Look at the next statement she made. Doesn't that make sense to you? She is trying to make up for some area that she feels she has failed you miserably and she wants to make up for it. She wants you to be happy, Lan!
Okay, so if you try to show that you are happy by being more relaxed and trying to be more playful with her (if that is your style) or teasing.....whatever you use to do when you were first in love that made both of your feel happy.....do it now, Lan. You want her to be happy and she wants you to be happy and I just want to get the two of you together and say....here.....you are in love with each other....relax, enjoy, and make love like there is no tomorrow.
Yep, piecing is very hard and I think one reason is just like your stitch where the W comes back home and everything is strained. That is what is going on here. The tension in the air.....you wondering how she feels and what she's thinking and she's wondering the same thing about you.
What about doing something really special for her.....like a real romantic place to carry her to dinner....or for the weekend. Just come out with it and tell her, "What do you say we draw a piece treaty and stop walking on egg shells and just enjoy each other again?" How do you think she would react to that? Would she be relieved? Would she react negatively.....and if so, why?
Just a thought. You have to keep DBing in piecing, but gee whiz, I wish you two would both get a total body massage!
Love ya!
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
