Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[GoingForward]

THis would be nice if this was the case. Too bad he is working so hard to convince himself though.

My H tried VERY hard, too, SW. Almost daily.

I actually thought yesterday at work I am going to spend the evening cleaning, that will be an interesting 180 if H walks in and it is spotless(please now my house is not a disgusting mess, it just isn't like his mom's perfect place) But then I got home and after everything was said and done i wasn't feeling to bright and sunny so I decided to pull out my exercise bike and exercise for the first time since the bomb.

Exercise is always a good thing.

My house isn't a cluttered pigsty either (I've received confirmation of this from both my MIL and SIL, even way before H moved back in and was complaining about things being messy), but to let H tell it, you'd think my house was a chaotic he** of pure filth!

Its funny though when I got home the same guy who was so concerned about the house had left the bread open on the counter and the melba toast box out, crumbs everywhere. He was in a good mood at that point and so was I so I asked where my phone was so I could send him a mean text saying close the bread! He laughed.

LOL! Touche.

Reminds me of a similar interaction with my H shortly after he moved back in. One day he was complaining about me spending money on a cup of coffee from Starbucks (I go there about twice a week). His snide remark while walking away with his back to me, "Great. I guess I should start investing in Starbucks. I could make a LOOOOOOTTA money doing that."

A few days later, H and his coworkers were here. H came inside asking me if I needed anything from the store because he was about to go on another beer run. Also said he might get a lotto ticket. "It'd be nice to win millions instantly," (or something close to that). I said, "No, we can just load up on stock in Anheiser(sp?)-Busch, Corona,.....Uhhh, what other brands do you like?" He looked puzzled at first but then caught on, smiled, and said, "Oh, yeah." He started laughing.

The sooner we work on forgiveness, the sooner we can begin to move forward in a positive direction.

I am trying, I am trying. I have been doing very well for the last week and a half and we have got along great for the most part.

That is good to hear, SW. As you know, I have been failing quite miserably in that dept lately. Gotta let go and stop rubbing his face in past comments he's made. *Whack!*

He's probably thinking if you've got time to play catch, then you've got time to clean house and make sure that D gets her homework done.

This one is more his jealousy creeping in, catch is at lunch at work, he was so concerned last week he near begged me to come home and had nonchalantly worked it into conversation a number of times since.

Ok, and I remember that post. However, I'm thinking it could be both.

He is indeed exhibiting jealous type behavior. BUT he could also be saving fuel for later down the road, for when and if he sees anything else that is bothering him (unkempt house, D not getting her homework done, etc, etc).

I know it bothered my H whenever I went out while we were S'ed. It upset him to think and/or know that I was possibly with someone else. He was jealous. Oh well, that was HIS problem, not mine.

But it also appeared to him that I didn't care as much about the tidiness of the house or always making sure that things got done. It seemed to him that my going out or whatever was more important to me than anything else. He thought I didn't care about what mattered to him. If I could make time to do other things, I certainly should be able to make the time to do the things that really ought to be done. Even if I didn't feel like it.

Find and take care of the 'annoyances' before your H does. Save yourself from future drama.