Matilda, Yoyo, and Jak, In this case it was a married senior gentleman over 60, so I'm not sure why he asked about marital status. If someone is expressing an interest in dating my W, all they need to know is that she's not available, and not our marital status.
It is difficult trying to honor my W's request about marital status. I think for some people it's an innocent question. On the other hand, I do think it's forward to ask an acquaintance such personal questions. I've run into people who are more interested in satisfying their curiosity versus respecting other's privacy.
The conflict is that as the connection in the M is increasing, we are becoming more of a public couple again. However, we are not a solid couple that has physical displays of affection. I think I will try to keep marital status private to the extent that I can, but will have to accept that I will occassionally get tripped-up.
It's somewhat confusing. My W will present us as a couple who is committed and lives together, but avoids giving marital status. It's one more issue to work on being nonreactive to.
My W has brought-up her interest in Hawaii again. I think I will let her do the legwork in planning for this, and see what she comes up with. Maybe she can find a moderately priced Hawaii vacation.
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"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
