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[ba065]

YR:

Your words of wisdom are so valuable to me! It was so helpful to read how your H acted at different times....it sounds like you are talking about my H sometimes! I truly believe my H is in MLC...and I can only hope that I will have the strength and patience to see this through to the end...no matter how it turns out.

Thanks for posting and sharing your sitch with all of us!

Hugs!

BA

[yellowrose]

Ba

I dont know if they are words of wisdom or not. It was called trial and error on my part. I learned as I went along.

Some how you find the patience ans strength to get through this with the help of God. Hang in there!

Y

[Truelove]

Hi YR,
I hope you had a lovely week-end and Mother's Day. I am so happy for your daughter that she can finally enjoy her dad again. Take care.

[plentyhope]

Hi YR, Do you have any words of wisdom for my previous post (pasted below)?

YR, My H may be WAS or MLC. Still not sure.
- He still sounds bitter and seems to blame me even though he admits his bad temper damaged our M.
- He says we're not right for each other.
- Says he's afraid of me because I was controlling and didn't give him any slack.
- says I am too light a sleeper (for his snoring)
- even though he sees my changes, he still drags out all the past stuff.
- says he can spend his money exactly as he pleases
- when I suggested trying things out (while still apart), the answer was "I don't want to lead you on". Does that mean he has no intention of coming home ever?
So, if he has so many complaints and doesn't want to give us a chance, why is he enjoying intimacy with me?
-PH

I am not giving up on my M. Please don't get me wrong. Just wondering what to think of my H's words.
-PH

[yellowrose]

PH

I am so sorry, I must have missed you post!

I hear alot of excuses. I hear alot of what my H would say to me too.

I hear alot of MLC bologna.

To me it sounds like he still wants the connection with you, hence the intimacy.

Y

[yellowrose]

TL

Thanks for checking in with me. Yes, my D is doing rather well. She still has some rough days but is much, much better. Mothers day was great!

Y

[plentyhope]

YR, Thanks for validating He was afraid I would think of him as "using" me - said that in Feb 2007. Hasn't mentioned it since. I guess I got confused by his "not wanting to lead me on"..... Go figure! I am sure he must be processing what we talked about in the R talk. I am praying about that anyway.
-PH

[yellowrose]

PH

I think it is so funny that they always say they don't want to lead us on or give us false hopes. Little do they know they are doing it to connect to us. At least that was how it was in my sitch.

Y

[plentyhope]

YR,

Little do they know they are doing it to connect to us. At least that was how it was in my sitch.

I hope this is what he is doing, despite saying he doesn't want to try things out because "he doesn't want to lead me on". I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I responded with "it would NOT be leading me on because I am confident that things would work out". Hee hee...

I so like that you are so kind in offering to "listen" and "respond" to our questions on your thread. Thank you so much for your kindness.
-PH

[happynow]

YR,

Thank you for being here for all of us!! And wanting to help!!!!

My H, the night he cussed me out said I was using him. I told him he hasn't been used yet but he is about to. I didn't say it but the OW will use him for sure.

I agree with BA, you words of wisdom are valuable to me also!!!!

(((HUGS)))