Klm- still working on getting that book. AFter today, I will for sure.
cbk- thanks for checking in. I always smile when I read your posts to me.
Kat- I will be in the other thread once in a while it seems. Like today. you'll see my post. As for advice for you, be the best person you can be, for YOU. If he said he is leaving you, don't do anything for him at all. Be great all by yourself, and definitely don't show mopiness....I hated that. Do the 180s and focus on YOU. That will be attractive to your H and might allow him to reconsider. If not, it is the "fog". Just remember that. He will eventually see clearly. Meanwhile, you get yourself where you want to be whether he is with you or not.
sandi- You and I are going to be tight. I can tell already. THank you for giving me your story in a nutshell. WHen I have time I will have to read up on your thread. Check out my post in the other forum again. Hard day today. Advice?
NikB- thanks for the warm welcome
Puppy- Looks like it will be at least 18 months for me. Did it take that long with your W?
Mark-Yep, after today and having to contact him. I'm back at day 1. Again, I need to get that book. I think I'll try to get it tomorrow.
Oh, and Mark...here is my list so far: 1. He said he made sure to not get involved until the divorce was final in his situation. Yet, he got involved with me even though my divorce was not final.
2. He came to my house the first time, wouldn't take off his shoes at first, and said "I feel guilty for some reason."
3. He never asked to come to my house because I didn't want my neighbors to see him because I wasn't divorced yet. If I was certainly going to divorce, and it was "ok", he should have known that it was "ok" for others to see me and him together.
4. He asked if I would ever go back to my husband if I had the chance and I said, "If he would ever go to counseling which he never would do."
