welcome back smurf, I too have missed your posting and advise. It is strange that if the mlcer has more than one child they choose one to grip to and treat as their possesion, why is it then that if they only have one child they just completely abandon them for the ow
I dont know! Is it a reminder of their percieved unhappiness? Is it a path of least resistance? Is it self abosrbtion? Is it shutting out anyone who is judgmental?
In my case, I can see it as a bit of everything. My son is so laid back, he would fall over. He probably just does not mention anything about the situation, therefore he is not voccaly judgmental. Wife is so self absorbed, probably always has been, so selfishness comes naturally to her.
On the other hand, Daughter has expressed her contempt at the situation, is judgmental, and she has been squeesed out.
I have observed wife trying to hug the kids, as with me in the early days, and it was so false, and just going through the motions.
Thanks smurf, your probably right, about the sitch with your daughter and thats why shes been squeezed out, my son wouldn't have anything to do with ex's ow, wouldn't spend time with her and his dad wouldn't spend time with son without her, bulls clashing horns I suppose, then when ex was getting married he more or less was forcing son to don on a suit and attend, son wasn't having any, so in a way I suppose it is the fact that son hasn't and won't accept that the ow stole his father from him and that he would sooner be with her than him, son actually says that and he also says, dad wanted a kid and it hasn't taken him long to get fed up of it, poor babes, he is nearly 14 years old and more grown up than his father.
