It just doesn't FEEL like I'm pursuing, but to everyone else here, it is.
Am I just blind or stupid?
I don't think either, but I do think, at least for me, it's easier to see what someone else here should be doing than in your own sitch for some reason.
I would also say the touching sounds like pursuing, with the only exception being if your W complained you didn't/don't touch her enough as that would be a 180 for you. I think the point is you are still making progress even if you aren't perfect. Karen
I cant really tell from his history, Karen , whether that is a 180 or not ?.. but I agree .. He is working it ! She appears to be responding to him.. except when his emotions get the best of his sitch. Keep them in check and see what happens. If anything.. It would appear that SHE is pursuing him a bit ? Sort of a back and forth thingy ? Hard to tell at this point really..
Regardless H4H.. This is the hardest thing you will probably ever have to do in your life. YOU do have connections with your wife.. the church.. kids.. and also your extended family. I sense that this is going to work out.. just get past the OM.. and move along.
Karen 
