It just doesn't FEEL like I'm pursuing, but to everyone else here, it is.
Am I just blind or stupid?
I don't think either, but I do think, at least for me, it's easier to see what someone else here should be doing than in your own sitch for some reason. I generally feel clueless about my own sitch but here I am giving advice to you! Obviously you know you should only do the family-related emails or sometimes I do bill-stuff and emails like that which you really need to make and not chatty ones. That is one of the hardest things for me to do. So you could work on cutting those down to zero.
I would also say the touching sounds like pursuing, with the only exception being if your W complained you didn't/don't touch her enough as that would be a 180 for you. But I agree with Tom that you sound like you're doing a pretty good job. In one of the DR or Change your life books I know Michelle W-D puts it something like 2 or 3 steps forward and 1 step back, but I think the point is you are still making progress even if you aren't perfect. Karen
Obviously you know you should only do the family-related emails or sometimes I do bill-stuff and emails like that which you really need to make and not chatty ones. That is one of the hardest things for me to do. So you could work on cutting those down to zero. 
