Mrs. H, If a discussion was raised about an "informal" visitation schedule and you have something somewhat in place as you mentioned, Wednesdays and every other weekend, well...stick to that informal schedule and let it be. The man is trying to drive you over the edge so that you'll say or do something that you'll regret later on. Trust me, he's pushing buttons big time for one reason--to show his lawyer, the judge and anyone else that will listen that you are not being cooperative.
If the JA calls again and is asking over and over again, just say, JA, I have to go, someone is at the door or my dog is outside and I need to check on him/her. You can find any number of excuses to use for hanging up. He doesn't deserve your time or attention. Be nice, but be firm and businesslike. He's losing control and he will only get worse before he gets better.
As for you, please try to have a pleasant birthday. Do not allow JA to ruin it for you. They really do have a problem with us enjoying any holiday or special event, and yet, they are the ones that are suppose to be enjoying life and their new found freedom....so not so w/them.
Please take care of yourself and do not answer that phone again. BTW, can you set the ring tone on your cell so that you can identify if it's him calling?
Happy Birthday a day early!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
