[quote=Snow White] Ok, I agree. He's in a nitpicky mood. Just looking for any kind of justification as to why he was unhappy at home, making himself feel better having made his choice. IOW, He is NOT happy with his choice to leave his family, but he will try anything to convince himself otherwise.
So how to remedy this???......DON'T give him the chance to find the justification he is scrambling for. Clean the house. I know you are a working mom, so get help if you need it. Also from now on, be sure to check D's bag every afternoon after school and/or work (I slipped up once and didn't catch a big assignment that was due the next day! H was p*ssed off more with me than he was with S12.), and oh! Try not to forget to wipe up the jam jar!
Look around the house and improve anything else you think needs it. Get to it before he does.
Tackling his gripes will show him that you are listening to him, and that you care.
Yes, GF you told me about this too--my H nitpicks constantly as well about the house not being clean enough or whatever. I am trying to make at least some progress every week on improving the house, which I think is a realistic goal. Although I have to say with pets and 2 kids and home schooling there is usually a mess somewhere left by one of them and my H really enjoys finding them I think!! I like your interpretation, GF, that Snow's H is not happy with his choices and am wondering (hoping) that is true in my H's case also. Karen
I like your interpretation, GF, that Snow's H is not happy with his choices and am wondering (hoping) that is true in my H's case also. 
Karen
