Where do...I...go from here?

[tpaschal]

Mrs. H,

Yep, you are so right. I just thought of the child's chant, "I'm rubber and you're glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you!"

Hmmm.....guess I WOULD look childish and immature if I chanted this at him! LOL!

As for the L, I was pretty upset with him anyway, so it probably is a good thing he is withdrawing. I do not think he was doing a good job for me.

I do not have any wealthy family who could help me out. (And the L even asked me this---asked if there was anyone in my family who would pay his bill! What nerve!! He knows he'll get his money eventually---the court would take it out of my settlement to give him before they give it to me!) My mom and dad have decent jobs but have suffered a lot of financial hardships over the years. Same with my younger sister and her husband, and they also have three kids under the age of 5! So, while they love and support me emotionally, I was always the one (with H's help and blessing, of course) who helped support them financially when they got in a tight spot.

I don't know what I'm going to do yet, but I've talked to a friend who suggested actually going in to talk to the judge to ask for her advice on what to do. I may just try it! Even if she has to recuse herself from the case and send it to another judge, I couldn't be any worse off than I am now. And she at least might be able to advise me on how and where to get a lawyer, or how much time I will have to get one.

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

I did have a nice Mother's Day weekend. MIL and FIL helped out so I could spend a little alone time with each kid on Fri. night or Saturday, then kids and I had friends over for dinner Sat. evening, then kids and I went to church and then to IL's house for lunch on Sunday. And H is not taking the kids this coming weekend even though I offered to trade with him (I am pretty sure OW threw a fit when he told her about trading weekends, because it is Bimbo Family Graduation Weekend--bimbo's OLDER sister is graduating from college---yep, it's that disgusting), so the kids and I will plan some fun things for this weekend, too.

Even though H is entitled to have the kids for all of Father's Day weekend, he told me he will pick them up at 9am on Father's Day and bring them back at 6pm. Wow. The OW really does lead him around by his hoo-hoo.

So, so, sad......to see a once wonderful husband and father reduced to this. And no, I do not blame OW. But neither is she blameless. She is one of the lowest of the low points in this whole mess.