H4H - I don't know how you can detach with W in the same bed as you. I have a hard enough time in the same house and different bedrooms! All that joking around makes things seem so normal, and that leads us to our backslides - we both want to say "what is wrong with you, do you want to leave all of this?" type of questions... I know, that is exactly what happened to me this morning, we have been getting along so well, two steps forward, one back. We are a rare breed, willing to work and fight for our M when WAW is involved elsewhere... And, like you, am madly in love with her and cannot detach for the life of me! So what are we going to do? I guess we can keep backsliding and then blame ourselves if the M doesn't work out, or get back up on the horse and DB like no others, then if it doesn't work out, we can say we left NO STONE UNTURNED - even with my backslides, that is my motto. I don't want my kids to go through this and they are much older than yours - I cannot even imagine the hurt for your kids.
Keeping tabs on us H4H - that is what we have, bouncing ideas of each other and trying to keep the chin up amidst our setbacks.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09