Angelica, the more I read about MLC the less I know or am sure about. I do believe it happens to varying degrees but I also believe as a spouse left behind you can make all sorts fit. Rather like reading a medical dictionary. Yes I agree about OW comments tho. My H never blamed me always said I did everything better than OW. He had a perfectly happy and normal childhood, we had a perfectly normal life no major problems. He never had any of the "Isms" so frequently talked about personality disorders etc. I guess we just outgrew each other and he got bored maybe. OW always chased him we laughed about it! He bought a red sports car joined a gym, new clothes etc but that doesn,t make him MLC just that by that stage in his life we had a little spare money. You are so right about self delusional we are all guilty of that some more so than others and after reading this board for so long it hits me straight in the face, but pointing out the obvious is never well received. I remain so grateful for the v happy 30 odd years I had and for my children. MY x did say to my d he would like to see me, but even now I am not sure it would do me any good.
