I am sticking to my guns on the legal issues. She can stop this mess at any time. She is not following the rules and I will call her on it every time... in a calm manner. This really goes with the respect issue. Without respect, there is no chance.
We have a kid event tonight that we will both be attending. I am going to make it a point not to sit with her or interact with her unless necessary. I will speak to her (if appropriate) and be very pleasant. We need to act divorced in public. She needs to know that I am comfortable with being a single dad in public. She always sits with me at church (when she goes) and at kid events. At church events she hides her empty ring finger as much as possible (the irony of being ashamed yet pursuing the D) I am very comfortable in the knowledge that:
1. I did not start the Divorce, do not want it and am doing all that I can to reconcile. 2. I have changed for the better since the S started, physically (lost weight/exercising), mentally (way more patient and calm) and spiritually (dependant on God to show me the way). These changes are good for me and will continue. 3. I take full responsibility for the problems in our marriage that I caused. I know I am not perfect and am working on myself every day to improve. I forgiven myself, sought forgiveness from God and my W. The W wont even listen. She also admits no issues that she caused. 4. I take no responsibility for the pain and suffering caused by the D process on my W, Kids, Friends, Family and me. I try to help all but the W with the issues. I will accept no blame for this in that I do not want it. 5. My marriage is over. I will continue to do all I can to save it. When I decide to give up it is between me and God and I will be at peace. If she comes back then so be it. It is in God's hands. All I can do is set the stage.
