I don't know what to think of this

[Bworl]

Dar,

You say you know why you treated your husband poorly.

Have you fixed it? Are you working in some tangible way to fix it?

I see so many people on this board set themselves up for disappointment with unrealistic expectations.

How many of these MLC stories resolve quickly? I can't think of any. Most take a couple years minimum.

Think about what life is like for most of those people between bomb and return. Read some of those threads. It's absolute garbage and spew that some have had to fend off during those years.

Have you read the resources? Do you remember reading about the pursuit dance? How so many of these MLC'ers want to maintain your interest, so they draw close, then pull way back when you respond favorably.

I'm not trying to point out that your husband is doing this. I'm saying that this whole time is filled with ups and downs, highs and lows, good and bad. Just when things seem to be improving, the bottom appears to fall out again.

Attaching YOUR mindset to THEIR behavior is a prescription for daily misery.

So why do it?

One of the perks (and there aren't many) of a spouse in MLC is that you can pretty much leave them completely alone and not hurt in any way the chances that they get straight and come home one day.

So..

Your choices...

Stay plugged in like an IV to your husbands crap and suffer through constant doubt and worry.

Or disconnect. Live your own life. Square yourself away finally, fix some of those things that made you a bitch to live with.

And see what happens.

As Master Yoda says...

"Do or do not. There is no try."


Blessings,

Bill