Maybe Last Thread in Separating, Found DB 2 Late

[cw68]

OK, just called him and left a voice mail. Very glad he didn't pick up. The message was simple, and I didn't sound angry or anything, just asked him if he could get me a snapshot of his work 401k today, that he could either email it to me or fax it.

I'd really, really like to know how to log into his work benefits account though. H travels a lot and I want to document just how often to let this help determine custody. I don't want to keep the kids from him or anything at all like that, but I need to know that he actually can do whatever custody he proposes. The kids need stability right now and I don't want them to think they are going over to Dad's on Tuesday and then Dad has to go out of town. Of course I realize that this will happen occasionally, but it can't happen often or the kids are going to get shafted, whether they feel that work is more important to Dad than them, or if they take their frustrations out on me because they don't get to see him like they thought.

Just got back from the kids' school and S5's kinder teacher came over to me. She said that yesterday S5 was sitting quietly, on task as usual, but staring off into space. He turned to her and said, "My parents are getting divorced" and then got up to go to the bathroom. She said she was sorry and that her heart broke for me a little bit.