no, it happened after a therapy session where I literally said "If you need me to be the bad guy, I can. If you need me to draw a line in the sand I will." It has always been about me being the "bad" guy; translation - the one with boundaries which she knocks up against now and then.

I just SO don't want this for our D9. Or for "us" whoever that is. I love her and it's disappointing to think you love someone so infantile. She has childhood "issues" with which she does not deal and she needs to "grow up again" and heal them. But since she won't face them, not bloody likely.

I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it.
Stubby