After a brief backslide last week I was able to "head right back to that good spot, hunker down, and hold on...", which is where I am today, H's 1st meeting day w/ his IC since last November.
I moved back twice the distance since the latest push/pull & it seems to be working for me & definitely helps to keep the emotion out of the interactions we do have.
The flowers he sent for Mother's Day arrived in the morning before I had a chance to open the front gate, so they had to put the vase thru w/out the flowers & then put them in again one by one, making for a messy arrangement. His response when I told him was a pretty worried, "Were you out all night?"
I have noticed a change in wardrobe since I dropped out, nice, pulled together appearance has replaced the Ugg's/shorts/old sweatshirt uniform of the past year.
Lot's of sigh's when he's picking up S's, especially when I drift right past him w/out skipping a beat & engage myself in happily doing something else around the house.
Since I turned it around again, I don't have that endless loop of analyzing the R, makes it much easier to participate in my life.
I've been planning on moving out of this forum, just keep waiting to see where it all falls.
"Our S's are living in a world of turmoil , indecision . self justification . And they keep dragging us in there from time to time and its because we let them."
You're right Dave, it is because we let them & it doesn't help, only sets us back everytime.
