Hi Tipper, I don't think I have posted to you before but I just wanted to say it sounds like your R is moving along and you are very smart to be taking it slow.
The red flag thing with the female living downstairs...I am SURE it is nothing but I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. It is probably not jealously as much as you feel distrust.
My H and I reconciled and he has been home almost a year now. I still wonder why he is late home from work or who is talking to on the phone and when he goes out with friends if he is really with them.
I know all of this distrust stems from what he has done. I wanted my M and I am very happy that things are better now than they were. We go to MC and I express my fears and distrust then, I have been assured that it is absolutely normal and with time these feelings will get less and less.
H also does a great job of reassuring me...he calls when he is going to be late...etc... Somedays I want to snoop, check his email, cell phone, but I don't.
I do believe H is home for good. I do believe he is truly sorry for his actions. I also feel he is thankful that I gave us a second chance...
The feelings you have are normal...what does your gut tell you? It sounds like your H wants to be a family again. I would not give a second thought about where he is moving. If you continue to spend more time together, he may be home sooner than you think!
