Thanks all - slight backslide this AM - we were making small talk and I said I thought the weekend went well - this was really the first time we had the chance to talk about it. As the convo progressed, I said (stupidly) that at times I though we felt so comfortable and I came up behind her to give her a friendly hug - this set her off and she said we are just in two different places and she needs her space. I agreed and said I know I have been hovering around. As we got a little deeper into it, dancing around the edges of an R talk, I finally said that I am fighting for us, I believe in us - smack, 2x4 - she said she needs her space. Finally, we were going into an R talk and I said I don't want to go down this road, she agreed and said that I should just go ahead and leave, which I did without looking back.
She said she hates to tell me not to hug her (I haven't hugged her for weeks) or that I am not leaving her alone enough. She says when she does, I get all depressed. I actually said that I would prefer her be honest with me. We finally agreed upon a peace sign - if either of put up two fingers, that meant time out, go to neutral corners. Sounds childish, but hopefully will work.
Again, a backslide, for some reason, the atmosphere seemed right for me to talk about the weekend and thank her and give her the hug. Learned the lesson. Take all leads from her.
Bummer, but okay,
CBK
Ahh yes..two steps forward one step back. Now, take what you did, store it in your memory, burn it in your brain and don't repeat it. SHE TOLD YOU SHE NEEDS SPACE. you heard it come from her lips. Give her some space brother.
