This is why I feel so like I am the only one in here that has had to deal with the same O/W. Makes me think maybe they were meant for each other since they revived the affair... and yes you are right... it did not work the first time..they had a 2 yr affair the first time.... ******* i need therapy or something to put those feelings to bed.. again thanks hope to hear from you soon and see what you think..
Hi Irma! Sorry you are here but this is a great site--I don't know what would have happened if I hadn't found this place!!!
I don't think your H and the OW were made for each other except that they are both dysfunctional. From what I've seen in my sitch and others, most (maybe all?) of the OWs are messed up. Why else would they have affairs with married men or married men with kids? The OW in my case is married with kids also! She has 3 last names and her D has a 4th last name--she's already been married a few times already, etc. I have mutual friends and they tell me she lets her daughter drink alcohol already at 13 yoa, and stuff like that. I think because they are dysfunctional people having a dysfunctional R they say 90% of affairs don't work out--but I guess our Hs need to figure that out for themselves.
I think it is kind of funny everyone here is getting therapy (I am too!) or thinking about getting it, but I think our spouses are really the ones that need it. I think it's ok to have those feelings, I do and I think we are just being human! Karen
Karen
