Where do...I...go from here?

[tpaschal]

H was a putz again about Mother's Day. Agreed verbally with me that we would switch weekends so that they would be with me for the whole Mother's Day weekend, and agreed that I would do the same for him for Father's Day weekend.

Then went back on it, denied that he agreed to it, and was only going to bring them back home late Sat. night or early Sun. morning. I ended up having to get my L involved. (At least last week I still had a L!) Had to get his lawyer to inform him that according to Texas law, the mother does get the kids for the whole of Mother's Day weekend.

What's up with that? Does he think I would lie about it? Could he not look it up himself?

My H also just walks into the house as he pleases. I wanted him to feel comfortable here at home hanging out with the kids, to make this still a warm and welcoming place for him, but I have made a couple of boundaries---asking him to not come in my bedroom, and to not take any more stuff out of the house in front of the kids. He crosses both of those boundaries continually, and when I asked him the other day to leave my bedroom, he absolutely would not. I got frustrated, so I know it made him feel like he "won."

I should have just walked away, but I'm so, so tired of being disrespected. I sent the kids away on an errand (to bring their dirty laundry downstairs) and told him that I did not appreciate him ignoring my boundaries. I was calm, but told him that he had disrespected me in just about every way that a man could disrespect a woman, and I didn't think it was too much to ask for him to stay out of my bedroom. He just pooh-poohed it and said I was being childish and immature.

ARGH!!!