what to do what to do???

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This is why I feel so like I am the only one in here that has had to deal with the same O/W. Makes me think maybe they were meant for each other since they revived the affair... and yes you are right... it did not work the first time..they had a 2 yr affair the first time. I call him daily which my coach said to set a goal and that was to call less frequently... we actually have really nice talks..about daughter and what he did during the day etc. etc..... coach said to sound upbeat and happy...and I do for the most part but I still have those "like a child having a fit because I camt get my way with him" and he just changes so much lots sighing on phone... saying things like you are driving me crazy... and then I realize I am back to square one... like you said for me to be the person he wants to be with... isn't this just terrible... they did the cheating and because I now want to work on our marriage, the cheated on spouse
has to do all the work and walk on eggshells.I wish someone could explain that to me.. thank for your advice ...but yea this is why I feel so desperate because it seems like I am the only one anywhere that has had a husband's affair been with the same woman... one more thing... I really hate her so much because the ffirst time i can see happening, but not this second time.. I know they must of loved each other back then and he probably broke her heart... so this time she should of asked for some sort of divorce papers showing he was a free agent..but she just did not care..this is what you call a real homewrecker..I know I have to not have this kind of hate in me but I just cant help it... yes he is at fault too but she could of said no show me something that shows you are not together anylonger... i need therapy or something to put those feelings to bed.. again thanks hope to hear from you soon and see what you think..