Are those the only replies you have to what was written to you after you left work yesterday?
You are not "asked to not talk about" anything BUT that which borders on obsessive. You are not asked to NOT talk about anything except that which keeps you stuck in a rut. You ARE asked to talk about the one damn thing you actually have control over and that is DAR.
I personally don't care about the piercing talk, etc and with the way we all cut up on here at times, I was a bit surprised that it was mentioned in the frame that it was. Jesus Christ - I talk about vibrators! My point though, Dar - BND's opinion didn't warrant a paragraph long reply. None of us agree on everything all the time. Who gives a crap?! I love BND but I don't mimic her nor does she mimic me - how boring would that be? I think her main point was that you mention those things in lieu of doing the work that you are continually being advised to do. Once you do (or are at least in therapy, you can reward yourself with a piercing if you so desire and we'll love to hear about it! Hell I rewarded MYself with a vibrator (okay, so three of them so far but that's not my point )
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