You are up for a surprise because you have imagined the wall is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOoo high and thick that no matter what you do you couldn't get to her. I think that you will realise she is... human, meaning she needs what you need as well and that your efforts WILL make a change!!! Small in the beginning, but more noticable as you continue.
(((((Michelle)))))) You are right. I am so close to the wall that I can't tell how toall it is, or how wide it is. It feels tall and wide, only time will tell if it is, or isn't.
you are so right about W focusing in the negative! I didn't know if she had seen the weeding I did Sunday, or not, since she wouldn't see it when she uses the garage. There was one two or three inch tall hopseed bush that had started to grow in a useful place, so she asked me to not pull it. As I was working, I accidentally stepped on it, I'd forgotten exactly where it was. I think it will recover, but it got pretty beat up. anyway, the only thing she said about the weeding was that I had gotten the plant she asked me to save. It's so typical of her reaction to almost anything I do these days.
Remember the duck's back. Shrug, apologize, say it was an accident, that you hope it will recover - i.e. the hidden message is that you didn't forget what she said, it was just an accident! Validate, hear her, then move on.
Originally Posted By: dry_heat
It's so typical of her reaction to almost anything I do these days.
When do you remember this starting?
Also keep in mind that, jokingly or not, a lot of people say that a W who doesn't nag is more unhappy. That is because someone who isn't willing to argue is so far past caring that it's not even worth saying anything. So, there might actually be a positive in here - that she feels you are finally hearing her.
Keep it up for a while, see what happens!
(((Jeff))) I am sure both you and the bush will be fine.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I think I did ok when she brought it up, I immediately said that I'd stepped on it accidentally, and I thought it might be ok. She didn't say anything else. I think the next time I work out there I might find another one, and transpant it. There are a bunch of them out there, and they transplant pretty well! I think we bought one, and we've probably got 10 or 15 around the yard now that we've transplanted.
She has looked for the cloud, rather than the silver lining for a long time, I can't really say when it started. For the past year or two she has actaully nagged a lot less, which I realize could be a bad thing. It's kind of sad, more nagging could be a good thing!
