FG - excellent advice and something I have found to be sooo true for myself too, recently. B I think Forrest is 100% on when he says that the kiss was a control thing. It keeps you hooked.

My H left, came back, and then after bomb #2 told me that his biggest problem was "I never thought I might lose you. I knew you were waiting for me." He even admitted to some of the game he played. The look on his face when I said "Don't be so sure" was priceless but... ACTION would have been far better for me, then. Play hard to get B - he wants a challenge.

As sad as it is he doesn't want the "comfortable" (in your mind) "go home to wife and child." He wants that challenge, right now.

If you want an example, check out SallyM's latest posts in "Surviving the Big D" - yes it looks like she's headed for D but she's a tremendous example in HOW to handle the "wavering" spouse right now. I'd love to have her strength. \:\) I'll have to learn from it instead, maybe you can too.

About Kendall - wow you're getting close right?? I'm excited for you. \:\)

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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