CBK, it is impressive to see your mood improvement. It is nice to have a big kid to go shopping with, it sounds you had great time. I agree that the "drowning" title is no longer appropriate, you are swimming big time, and I am sure this is going to be noticed by W. Now is also time for you to get some good sleep.
Thanks ROP - I need to remember though that I am still on the emotional roller coaster - I need to be careful. WAW is being so nice to me right now - S19 and I just had an argument, nothing big, but he does get irrational. WAW asked what it was about, so I told her. She was just so nice to me, like nothing going on. We talked a bit, then I got up and walked out of her room. Sometimes I feel she is so close to me, other times, so far away. So when I walked away, I took the nice stuff for what it was, filed it in the back of my head and will get ready for the "bad" stuff. I have not pursued tonight, although tempted to ask her to come back to bed, I miss her touch - but like my friend Steve would say, WWJBD - time to seduce her - make those positive changes and show her that I am the man she remembers. All in time!
I may be able to break away for that beer on Wednesday - any thoughts on where or what time? I can get there as early as 4. I may have one snag, but will know tomorrow. If next week is better, I am in all week. Let me know.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Sounds like you had a good night all the way around. You impressed your daughter, with your shopping skills. You fixed dinner, good job ! I'd love it if my H fixed dinner when I was sick. And, to top if off you offered tea. Nicely done.
Take care.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Thanks SC - I hope I am not pursuing, I don't think so... but my judgement has been right on lately. I was happy W just went to sleep, with her door open, she has not done that since she moved into her room. Again, not reading into it, just observing.
Thanks, I think I had a pretty good day all in all. Actually, a pretty good few days since about Friday. PMA, 180, GAL and stop obsessing about what WAW is thinkging, doing. or talking to. I am the guy she married, the one that will fight this battle for both of us and let God do his work.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Well, I was replying and everything froze. I will try again:
The stress diet is not healthy! Now may be a good time for another 180. Eating healthy foods. This is the plan I have been following: CORE PERFORMANCE I have been doing it for awhile, but I am full force into it now that D is happening ... I feel so much better!
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Congratulations on all the baby steps! I esp liked the bedroom door been left open. It looks like she is getting more comfortable been around you.
Keep up the good work!
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Dont like to say I told you so.... but.... I told you it would get better!
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
Good deal CBK. You are doing good. Stay on track buddy.
Remember that she is under stress as you are and be ready for the unexpected Jekyll/Hyde rountine our W's are going through. When Hyde shows up it "water off a duck's back".
I'm glad the weekend went good. Hope your D had a happy B-day and glad the visit w your dad and mom went well..
I think you deserve a pat on the back for the last few days..now you have to maintain that.
Good to see you doing well. It's all in your attitude. I'm doing my "manning up", too. Just keep filing the good attitudes from her in the back of your mind, and keep doing for you.
Doin' great!
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."