I just wanted to stop by and say hello and give you a (((HUG))).
This might sound weird, but I think it's good that H said "i'm just so f----ing busy." like, he knows his life is outta control, sick, unsustainable. Also, you said he will try to heal his wounds by himself!! you believe he is going to work on himself!!!! that is big, I remember in the past it sounded like you weren't sure he ever would get to work on that. For some reason I thought he was already in IC though? because he was getting indivdual assignments from the C?
Would you feel comfortable mentioning to your H something like, "if you are unhappy with your family, how about doing something different?"
I actually have been db'ing my mom (without knowing it) for almost 18 months now and even though I thought we were way too far apart to connect we are now connecting. Maybe he doesn't have energy to deal with this now, but to plant a little seed in his EXTREMELY HANDSOME GREEK HEAD, maybe it will germinate down the line....
