I am so glad to hear about this conversation with H!!!! Wow, sounds like you were able to talk about some really sensitive things in a very caring and open way. Sounds completely different from where you were a few months ago!!!!!!!!!!!
I remember a while back we were discussing different possible plans for H's visit on Wed? Like you were thinking about giving him a bottle of wine, to say thank you? (but no muffins, that's too motherly, I remember!!!) I was thinking, is there a gesture of appreciation you could do that would enable you to spend some time together so you could show your changes? Like something not-motherly, but where you could sit down and have a tea together, or go out and have a drink... an empanada... a croissant, or who knows, play darts?
I am so glad to hear your trip to NZ went well and you were able to spend time with your girlfriends. As for the GF who is havig an affair... It is really hard to see people you care about doing things that are so destructive. ay yi yi...
PLEEEEASE keep us posted on Wednesday's visit!! I feel a big shift in interactions, relaxation and connection... awesome. All because of how hard you've been working!!
