I'm Finally Ready to "Drop the Rope"

[butterflymom]

ok, so getting on a few nights ago didn't work out so great. Sorry.

Strategies for dealing with the beginnings of piecing. I guess first is to have no expectations of anything. Good grief that gets hard though when they are saying and doing the things the we have longed for them to say and do.

I think where you are at right now is probably the hardest part. It was for me anyway. THat beginning when you don't know if they are really committed to the marriage, but you want them to be so badly that you can taste it. You don't know if they are really ready to give up the OW or not because in reality they are still with them and not with you.(at least that was the case with me).

It's tough when you find out things that upset you. You still feel like your walking on eggshells and you don't want to upset that balance, but yet things are moving along and you want to be able to tell him what upset you.

My suggestions, not very novel or inventive. Pray. then pray some more. then when you think you know what to do, pray again. It seemed to me to be the best thing. There is not a lot of guidance or books or people it seems that have been at this stage. And those that have been at this stage tend to leave the board and go be happy married people so it's hard to figure out what you should do. You don't get a multitude of different opinions on how to go so it's hard.

I say go with your "gut". For me my gut is what God was telling me through my prayer. Good luck. This is the hardest part. IF you can get through it it does get a little easier. Not without problems or conflict, but easier for you as you become more comfortable with him and with him meaning what he says and knowing he's not going anywhere.

I'll keep an eye on this.

BFM