And what about reminding him that he said you should keep it all?
I have. He just makes me feel guilty. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but it does.
I did see him after work today. I apologized for how I acted yesterday....not for my feelings, but how I expressed them. He said I shouldn't apologize and I had every right to feel and act that way.
He did say that he hates seeing me upset. He said that I get upset and then he feels bad and then he just shuts down. I told him the reason I get so angry is because he shuts down and it just seems like he doesn't care at all that I am upset. He told me that he cares but that is how he deals with it because he can't fix it or do anything to make me feel better.
He said he goes back and forth from one week to the next about wanting to be with me. He said he feels like he deserves to be unhappy and he feels lost. I asked him when he started feeling lost and he said when it became a realization that he was getting out of the AF, but he still wanted to do it. Now that he has done it things are horrible and he wishes he hadn't gotten out.
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Have you thought about saying that you would like to move in together?
I have brought this up since he said it a couple of weeks ago. He really meant it at the time. Now he says he doesn't know, his feelings go back and forth. He says I can move in if I want...but I want him to WANT me to move in.
He said he can't call me to ask me to do things with him because he has no money. I told him we can do things that don't cost money. He said he has nothing to offer me.
So for now I am just going to give him some space and take some space of my own.
