i totally agree with deuxlie. that is awesome line and advice i'll try to follow. great job man. the once over in your birthday suit was a good touch.i think we need a bit more humor. the hovering, man i can really identify. read my thread. same deal. trying to comfort but should have "found my own space" trying not to read every little word, gesture etc. is so hard because of our codependency. its even magnified 10 fold now. anyway you cant stop progress, so dont even try. keep it up man.....
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
Yea, the bathroom scene was kind of funny in a way. I just kind of stood and said come on in - just glad it wasn't my mom or daughter! I have to say, the once over was nice. I have not been this skinny almost since we were married! I think if I lose about 5 more lbs - about 204 puts me at marrying weight! Now I just need to tone the muscles. Goint to buy a pilates ball today so I can do core exercises at home before I go to bed.
Also, forgot to mention, I did golf with my dad on Saturday, although it took us forever (5 1/2 hours), that was the first round I have played in many years - although I did't scorch the ball, I did manage 5 bogeys - many of the rest of my holes looked like snowmen, but had a great time with dad and friends.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
You sound great. The weekend sounds like it was really nice all the way around. You did good fixing lunch & cleaning up, good job !! It's probably best you didn't jump her bones, lol. Let her be the one to make those moves.
Going to the gym is a great idea. I like it when H goes. It shows me that he cares about himself, & also about looking good. It also helps clear his head a bit, he doesn't have so much anxiety going on.
What's your new thread going to be called ??
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hey SC - I was reading your thread earlier today. GF is giving you great input.
Yea, I will let her take that iniative, will be a long time I am sure... worth the wait though!
Off to Nordstrom to get my pants and suits taken in - I am hoping to stabalize my weight loss, 41 lbs in 57 days, not ideal - but like I said, I feel good about my body right now.
I need to change my thread to at leas "swimming with water wings" or something like that - no more drowning, to much self-pity!
Sandi - I go to my MD on Thursday AM - as promised!
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Wow, that is a lot of weight ! Are you eating ? I've lost weight too, I call it the Stress Diet.
"swimming with water wings" I like it. or "taking swim lessons", or, "treading water" or, "body surfing", lol
okay, have to run for a few, gotta go be a taxi service for kids. take care.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Stress diet would work... I am eating more every day, but I only sleep about 3 to 4 hours, so metobolism is going all the time... at least that is what somebody told me!
Waiting for D20 to get home - tomorrow is her 21st bday! She wants to go shopping with me - go figure...
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Shopping, hm, okay remember, it's not hunting where you kill it & bag it as fast as possible. It should be called "look at every thing in every store & go back & buy the first thing you saw".
I'll bet she loves that you're going with her.
Let us know how it went.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Just got back - my daughter is pretty cool. We had to take 7 pair of my pants and 2 suits to get altered. The sales lady was asking a ton of questions on how I lost all the weight - it was actually kind of funny as I was saying - just eating different, not drinking, my D20 was just laughing - I almost said "Hey, I am going through hell right now because my wife wants to leave me and is having an A" Well, I did think better of it...
Got home, made dinner for family, W is sick - she has a really tough week, so I am bummed for her. I asked her if she wants a cup of tea, she said no thanks - that is it until I go to bed. No pursuing, even when she is sick. I was going to the club, but I have to admit, I am a bit beat myself, so will hang out with the kids and play Guitar Hero on PSIII - which I totally suck at, but my kids laugh when I play.
SC - that is exactly how I shop - run in, grab and bag - then out. Drives W and D20 crazy. I did a 180 with D tonight and took our time after I dropped off my stuff. Of course, that is why I am beat - I HATE shopping - even D20 said wow, you are actually walking around the store - smark aleck.
Hope all is well,
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
