Sorry Yellowrose for long hi jack. I don't wish to discourage anyone there is always hope-I still have some. I do think that my xH was/is too proud to return. He has never even returned to our village even tho his new wifes family live there,as did he for over 20yrs. She returns for visits and her d even got m last year my x attended the wedding in a near by church but never once in the 2 weeks his wife was staying did he step foot in the place-I found that v odd.