ComfortablyNumb: In my first post you can read how I outed them in front of everyone at work. I even walked into the Boss's office where he and a supervisor were sitting and said "W is having an affair with OM" and left. That got me a sh!tstorm.
This weekend I kindly replied to Gramma, and said "thank you. I'm ok. I've never had to deal with anything as painful as infidelity before. I love W. I guess she simply doesn't want to be married. If she's happier with this man from work, then I can only take care of myself. I love you,l and I will certainly take you up on you offer to talk, should I need to." or something.
I have my bed. I don't know. If she comes back, I can't physically throw her out. She's a bullheaded one.
This weekend I was upset and I kept getting more and more upset at her blatant disrespect. And I'm going to gently confront her on it. Again. It came to a head late last night and I called my mom for support. I ended up venting and swearing and saying awful things. I love my W and I don't want to feel such anger and resentment and pain. (It's been a while and it caught me off guard) My mom actually said some things about W that hurt my feelings even more.
After that, I felt a little better and slept. At midnight W comes home again. Loudly. Wakes me up and "gets some things" so she can sleep. (Like medicine for her spine.) and then leaves.
I have been, for the last several weeks, flawless in my pacifism. Nothing she tries gets a reaction from me. (until she leaves)
Is she testing? or is she simply trying to hurt me? If it's the latter, then... who IS this person?!!!
Has anyone ever seen behavior like this? When I first started 180-ing, she would do dumb things like leave garbage in the shower drain, leave the plunger in the toilet, use my razor to cut fuzzballs off her sweater and then leave it in the sink.
It this "waking me up at 1:00 am" thing just a progression of the same principle? Starting a fight so that she can avoid dealing with her own issues?
