I have a question for peicers: I am new at this again, and I need some advise. I know it isnt good to rush a move back in with each other. My h and I are living apart now and just seeing each other briefly during the weeks and spending most of the weekend with each other. We have discussed waiting to move back in together. However, I dont know how comfortable I am with the arrangement he has in mind. He is going to move out of his apartment in town at the beginning of june. Then he plans on moving into a two family home/apartment in June for no set amount of time.
The issue I have is that he just told me the other day that the girl that lives down stairs is the bar tender at his favorite bar (that he frequents now and practically had lived at for the last 5 months). He knows he needs to stay away from the bar more than he used to if he wants this to work out. But this living arangement has got me freaked out. I dont know this girl at all. I do know that H told me a few weeks back (before our Reconnection) that him and his friends and her friends all had a bonfire over there cuz it has a large yard and fire pit. I feel like he still wants to have his freedom and party life style all while reconnecting with me. It bothers me for some reason.
Am I being too jealous and untrust worthy of him. I dont know if i should say something about the way I feel uncomfortable with the arrangement or not. He was planning on moving there before we reconnected and is totally excited about it. So I am afraid to speak up, plus I dont even know this girl or anything about her other than the bartender part.
I dont want to rock the boat when things are going so good in all other aspects. H is wearing wedding band, he has been apologetic, he has given me flowers, he also gave me a diamond "lifes journey" necklace, and staying away from the bars more than ever in the past.
HELP! should I speak up or not in regards to this? TIPPER
