No one says to give up. MLC takes time. Your H's time. I didn't think there was hope many. many times. I thought I had the plague when H was around. He avoided me. He wouldn't stay in the same room as I was in. Just because your H doesn't spend doesn't mean that he isnt in MLC.
Self centered or selfish is what I called my H. It was all me, me, me. He didn't care about anything but himself. He was a lost soul.
Maybe he doesn't want to say goodbye. Maybe that is guilt. I don't know. He is more ashamed than afraid of you in my opinion. My H when I would touch his arm he would pull back, so I stopped it because I couldn't take it either. It sounds like MLC to me!
