Dar I confess I am lost why on earth did you treat the man you love like that-maybe I missed the explanations.
I now wonder and I am sorry to say it but are you missing a posession your property ie husband or the love of your life. If its the first then possibly thats why you can't act on the help you have been given, not enough real incentive.
Love can move mountains and make us do things for that love that normally we would never be able to do-its an inner strength that we find we have when facing crisis. JMO