Mrs. H, It's always a downer a bit when you see families today and having a great time, but you know what? You have two wonderful little boys that love you very much. You have a family that would do anything for you and friends that love you. That's what is important right now....knowing you have all of this love around you at any given time. I know that you would like JA to straighten up, but it's not going to happen any time soon, and let's face it, he may never wake up and you sure don't want that attitude around each and every day.
Honey, I know that you would like to have the boys around for your birthday, but you set yourself up to be slam dunked by the JA. This gave him great pleasure in denying your request. So, what do you do? Keep quiet about it and just celebrate the day either the day before or the day after w/your boys. Don't give him the power to hurt you. He's just waiting to do this over and over again. Don't respond to his email....just let it go. It's not worth the aggravation, pain and hurt that you experience from reading it. I'm sorry he's not willing to meet you half way, but now you know more than ever as to what you are dealing with.
I hope that the rest of the week will be better for you. Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
