I think I just figured something out. Perhaps you need someone to "yell" at you for you to get angry enough to do something. I think I've noticed a pattern--you get a couple of 2x4's from some of the posters here, you get angry, and then straighten up, fly right, and vow that you are going to change to prove them wrong.
Please don't get defensive--I'm just trying to help you. Dar, you need to learn to give yourself your own 2x4. You need to become self-motivated instead of relying on others to do it for you. Have you made any progress on finding a T? I think it would really help you understand yourself and why you are so self-defeating.
I have sent the list of in-network T's to my doctor. The 2 he gave me aren't in-network. I'm waiting to see if he recommends any of the ones I emailed him so I can call them asap.
Wasn't making fun Dar. Maybe she can say it in a way you can understand.
Point is she (I'd bet my year's paycheck) she isn't going to say anything different than any of the other marriage rebuilt veterans, and by the way the veterans aren't the end all be all for advice.
You're getting some great advice from people in similar situations as yourself.
It's almost like you're waiting for someone to give you the advice you want to hear.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
