The negative memories - that is par for the course. I have 4 kids with my wife and she has turned our time together into "22 years of abuse." It is as if I locked her in the basement and threw down rotten meat every week. But you and I have to let that stuff roll off our backs. They are angry, and they say things that aren't really true in this state. They remember only the bad times, can't remember good times when they are angry. My wife is angry about comments I made about the kitchen mop. Of course I don't remember the conversation about the mop, but it illustrates my point. That is all they can remember.
of course you don't want to be married to someone like that. The question is, will she remain that person, or will she change and grow into someone you can love. And secondly, will you be willing to wait and encourage that, by working on yourself.
She thinks everyone is "siding with you" eh? Sounds like you need to back off the pressure, ask people to just back off. Or stop asking them to intercede on behalf of your marriage. Your wife will come around in her own time.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
