First day at work passed by pretty fast. I am struggling a bit with my schedule (my dad helped me a lot by picking up my son from school) but I will figure it out.
H sounds incredibly busy. He is flying out of town for a day this weekend, comes back, drives to another town on Monday and leaves for the tournament on Friday the week after. He did offer to help out tomorrow again (today he drove all the way through the city picked up our son and took him to work with him and brought him back later) but I said I would figure out something so that he wouldn't waste so much time driving around. He said "I don't consider this wasted time,(an effort to show me he considers us his first priority, that's how it felt) it's just that I am so f&cking busy". I arranged something with a friend of mine and I let him know.
I sent him a short email earlier today telling him that I can tell from the way he sounds he feels overwhelmed with work. I told him I know he will be fine as always and not to worry, he is great. Support but with no emotion.
My dad may come home tomorrow. He feels a bit better.
I am close to my parents although I have been the black sheep in our family for always doing as I wish (when I was younger). We have a different way of handling family Rs here, I know because I have spent time with xxs H family in the States. Our bonds are more "controlling" I guess. H used to believe he had a great R with his family. I don't he liked the fact that during Easter he felt WE are th only family he can really count on. It bothers him that they are not trying to get through to him. No mystery there, he never allowed then to in the past. They quit trying.
I don't think he will go for IC. He will try and heal his wounds by himself. LOVE K
I'm all caught up now.... at least w/ this thread. I've got to look at the other one next.
Hey, the news on your H sounds terrific! I couldn't be happier for you. Obviously what you are doing is working. The changes you've made have not only made you better, but have shown him what he's missing as well. Keep going strong.
I want to comment on a few things I saw in this thread:
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But we've only been married 7 years
That is why they call it the "Seven Year Itch!" I got the bomb in my 7th year as well. However, your sitch is much more optimistic than mine is right now, but I'm still a long way from throwing in the towel.
As far as your dad is concerned, you should be pleased his cancer is listed as stage II. That is much better than Stages III, IV, and V. My father had stage 3 colon cancer in 2000 and he beat it 100%. He is completely cancer-free today and his odds at the time were less than 50/50. So, from my experience and basic knowledge of cancer, I'd be optimistic w/ a stage II diagnosis.
Finally, what do I have to do to get a picture of the lovely Greek Goddess? Do you need my e-mail? I'd love to see the Sunshine!
(((((Kalni))))) It made my day to read that your dad is feeling better and may come home tomorrow
As for H, I too try to show the support without emotion. Trying to be more compasionate than I was in the past. That is pretty easy as I pretty much wasn't at all.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
(((((Kalni))))) As for H, I too try to show the support without emotion. Trying to be more compasionate than I was in the past. That is pretty easy as I pretty much wasn't at all.
Same here!! I regret it, I hope it's not too late. Men are just like dogs and kids. Want/need affection, encouragement and awards .
Frenchy: "Men are rats, listen to me, they're fleas on rats, worse than that, they're amoebas on fleas on rats. I mean, they're too low for even the dogs to bite. The only man a girl can depend on is a daddy."
I always loved that film :-)
Hmm... you got me thinking Kalni..must give more praise/affection!
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
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