Well, he actually said he would go to MC last night. But he was mean about it and i don't want to force him to go, I think the right attitude has to be there.
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You are both entrenched in your positions.
You are right. As you have said before...do I want to be right or do I want to be happy. I want to be happy. I just don't know how to get past it. He keeps asking me what he needs to do and honestly I don't know. I think he is right about a lot of the things he says. I am stuck and as soon as I get mad at him I throw it in his face, just like last night.
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You have tentatively set a deadline of June. How are you going to DB until then?
First off I need to stop fighting with him. I need to continue to do things for myself and DETACH. I have to quit taking his actions and attitude personally. My imagination is my worst enemy.
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How do you think he would react to the idea of a loan?
Honestly I think he would get mad and say "Half of that money is MINE and you want me to pay it back? Just forget it." Even if I brought up the fact that I am paying all of the house, have paid his rent, and his car payment. He will see me as controlling him yet again.
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How about a lack thereof - i.e. do you think he would feel obligated to pay you back w/o you saying anything?
No, he would not feel obligated.
I am not trying to shoot down your idea, I thought of it too, and I guess it is worth a shot...but I just feel like he would make me feel guilty for loaning him his own (in his mind) money.
