Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[Barbara66]

Hi LMG

I just caught up on your thread. Wow! Rewind about 3 months and you could be me. H finally moved out in April, contemplated since February or maybe even earlier. Same sitch as you. We get along great, never fought, kids never saw it coming! I never saw it coming. I didn't think he was involved in an affair either.....but oh yes, he was. On-line EA, they met in person twice (one time a weekend at a hotel while he was on a business trip)...he says no sex. So it's possibly a PA, only he and OOW know for sure. I still am hopeful that he will return, some of his family seems to think that OOW is on back burner right now. I don't know because I was finally able to stop snooping and I am trying very hard not to start again. My best advice is hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. I have a file of "proof" with my attorney. I have not initiated any action yet. I don't believe in divorce (unless abuse is an issue) so if he wants it, he can spend the money on an attorney. I'm not signing. Hang in there, these aliens that have taken over our husbands will eventually leave to inhabit another unsuspecting H (or W).