I'm with everyone else...your H is a real piece of work.
I would bet that there is some provision in your HR department for your sitch...I know that it might be hard to talk about this to folks there (I'm dreading this part if/when i have to...H and I work for the same U), but it certainly would beat the problems that may crop up if you are unable to supply that info, and no one knows the real reason...
