braveheart thanks for the insight and you might very well be right.I think she misses our daughter more then anything when she doent have her,but thats the bed she laid in.My problem is this anger and hurt that I have, I have a very hard time being civil with her so in retrospect I know I am hurting the cause more then helping it.I dont know I just wish I could wake up one day and it be easier.By the way the man she left me for is a police officer and I'm pretty sure he is good to her but he works a crappy shift so they dont spend a whole lot of time together.And one of the complaints about me was I was never home,what a joke.
