Tomato - Thanks for the encouragement. Like you, I'm hoping that she'll thaw out sooner rather than later. However, I am a patient man now. I haven't been in the past, but I am now, so I'm more willing to wait than before. Time is my friend, eventhough it seems to crawl along these days.
ND and SPM - We are all 3 living parallel lives it seems. Our W's are out there w/ wild accusations and here we are stuck in the mud waiting for things to turn. The legal system is painfully slow for each of us, but we all seem to feel confident that we'll prevail in the end.
ND, I do see the changes in me. I'm much more patient than ever before. W can't and won't allow herself to see where I've grown, but ultimately, that isn't relevant. The changes I'm making are for my benefit and for the benefit of my D. If W chooses one day to share in who I'm becomming and will continue to become, then she'll also get to enjoy my changes. If not, I've done the right thing for me and for my D. I have to continue to believe the truth will indeed prevail.
SPM - Wow! We do have some nasty stuff to deal w/ and if you are crazy for still loving your W, then at least you have a roommate in me. I can't explain it, but I'm still in love w/ her. I see her and just think about how attractive she is and how much I want to hold her hand and spend hour after hour w/ her. After what she's been doing, I must be nuts. However, I guess I'd rather try to somehow resurrect my M and fail than to have never tried at all.
I'm going forward w/ the deposition but I'm going to call off the dogs if my L is getting vicious. Embarassing W isn't the goal. Getting to the truth -- or at least showing the craziness of her accusations -- is what I'm looking to accomplish. I can only hope we can move forward after this entire custody thing is settled. I know I'll continue on the high road and I'll continue to try and be the man my D needs and who I should become. However, in the meantime, it is difficult and I'm very timid as I don't want to injure W in any way. Again, patience is my ally and time will tell.
Finally, SPM, THANK YOU for the information you received on children and their relationships w/ their parents. D and I have a great relationship and I'll continue to build on it as she moves through her 5th year. She loves me and I love her, so I'm encouraged to know that her foundation of our relationship should be really solid now and nothing others can say or do will cause lasting damage to that, if any damage at all.
Thank you my friends. I hope all is well in your worlds.
