I have just caught up on your thread and JA is totally losing it because you are not giving him any control. GOOD FOR YOU!!
He wants to argue with you constantly in order to get your attention. He is seeking attention, negative or positive at this point. Don't give him any!!
As far as your birthday, don't bring it up again, let him come get them as usual and celebrate your day either the day before or after...you don't want to have to deal with him on your birthday.
I am sure Mothers Day was a little sad...I remember how I felt last year and H and I had gotten into a huge fight and his family got involved so I basically cried all day last year...
You are doing well, I love how you are not putting up with his crap. I also had to laugh out loud about the dining room set...How does he remember that?? It just shows he is always trying to blame you for something...obviously you are not doing anything really wrong right now if he has to bring up sexual favors from 10 years ago...I am laughing again.
I see him losing serious control of his life...stay as far away as possible!
