I feel bad that you are in this situation. However, this might be what is needed to change the dynamic for you and H.
I know what you mean about putting in 110% and only getting 50% back. In my sitch, I felt I was getting even less than that - 25% at best - yet, amazingly, it has turned completely around and things are going very well for my sweetie and I.
I hope, really HOPE, that what you are doing gives you closure in one way or another, and you get what you truly want....whatever that may be!
(((((((CW))))))))
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!