To answer your post first - I'm not sure if H is still writing that stuff. His new phone is really confusing. It's easy to see the incoming texts (in fact almost TOO easy, I have to actively work to NOT look at the phone if I want to avoid seeing them). So I know she's still saying the BFF stuff to him. I have no idea how to see his responses/outgoing texts though. I can only guess that his "tone" back is probably similar but I don't know. And agreed - I think MC would be the best. I am thinking about how I want to bring up the subject. Things M-wise are going really well right now and it's scary to "rock the boat" so to speak.
What a great weekend we had!
The wedding was pretty good. Kind of odd as it's his cousin's 2nd wedding (and third serious R that I know of.. she has 2 kids with 2 different prior guys). I know it's kinda wrong of me but I just have a hard time taking M seriously anymore (or right now, anyway). Too much reading here I guess, and too much history for the cousin. I found myself thinking the whole time "yeah right, this is probably all a sham, give it 5 years.." I noticed during the ceremony that H was really distracted too - looking at the grass, checking out the fish in a pond next to where we sat, etc. He did hold my hand though so that was nice. It was just oddly uncomfortable.
The reception was a lot of fun and we danced like crazy. I even did a little bellydancing during a Shakira song. Talk about a 180!! I got a little embarassed and stopped and H said "Nooo don't stop you were doing great! Everyone was totally checking you out." Which of course embarassed me further but that was cool.
Talked to MIL and SIL a lot in the car ride up and at the reception too which was good. Things are getting a lot less awkward there.
FIL's girlfriend is one of the few I've ever talked to about the info H told me about the other cousin's wedding a few years back (the one where he realized he didn't want to be married anymore) - she pulled me aside one time and said "He seems comfortable and happy - maybe this will help erase that other memory?" (or something like that). I thought it was really sweet that she remembered, and took the time to talk to me about it. It wasn't crazy for me to be anxious. But I didn't let it ruin anything.
Sunday morning was a total scramble - running late on brunch since I didn't get all the cleaning/shopping done on Sat due to the wedding. I was cleaning like crazy and H said "I can do that stuff, you go to the store since you know what you need for brunch." I went to the store and got everything - and came home to find the house totally cleaned, vacuumed, and the table set and looking beautiful. And he set it with my grandma's silver that she passed on to me a few years ago. I cried (good way) and thanked him over and over. Wow.
We were about 2 hours late on brunch, but it was really good once I finally got it cooked.. . It was my mom, MIL, SIL, H's grandfather, my bro, and his W. We had a great time. After we ate, H jumped up to clean up and told me not to help - that I did so much work cooking it was the least he could do. WOW, again.
Last night we did some stuff on the racecar and had our traditional Sunday dinner together... just had a really nice, relaxed, happy time together. Great way to finish up the weekend.
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It was just oddly uncomfortable. 
but that was cool.
. It was my mom, MIL, SIL, H's grandfather, my bro, and his W. We had a great time. After we ate, H jumped up to clean up and told me not to help - that I did so much work cooking it was the least he could do. WOW, again. 